It’s Not You, It’s Not Me

I love how Thomas Crum, author of The Magic of Conflict, defines conflict: “when what you want and what you have are two different things.” 

When the conflict isn’t between you and me, but between what we want and what we don’t have, we have a chance to reconcile more effectively.  We get all parties on the same side with our best brains and focus.

Homework: Remember your most recent conflict.  How might Tom’s definition of “conflict” change how you reconciled?

Extra Credit: If you find yourself in conflict often, read The Magic of Conflict.

One Comment on “It’s Not You, It’s Not Me”

  1. Marna says:

    Something our Congress should consider.

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