If you’ve ever loved and lost another human, a beloved animal, a hard-tended business, or a carefully dreamed idea, loving again can provoke fears you might lose again.
Author C.S. Lewis (of the Chronicles of Narnia) knew the greatest adventures reward those who choose bravery anyway:
“Why love, if losing hurts so much? I have no answers anymore: only the life I have lived. Twice in that life I’ve been given the choice: as a boy and as a man. The boy chose safety, the man chooses suffering. The pain now is part of the happiness then. That’s the deal.”
I accept these terms. Otherwise, there will be no new love, no new business, no new ideas. So I love, lose, and dream, over and over again, knowing love and loss are inextricable. Because that’s the deal.