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That’s the Deal

If you’ve ever loved and lost another human, a beloved animal, a hard-tended business, or a carefully dreamed idea, loving again can provoke fears you might lose again. 

Author C.S. Lewis (of the Chronicles of Narnia) knew the greatest adventures reward those who choose bravery anyway:

“Why love, if losing hurts so much? I have no answers anymore: only the life I have lived. Twice in that life I’ve been given the choice: as a boy and as a man. The boy chose safety, the man chooses suffering. The pain now is part of the happiness then. That’s the deal.”

I accept these terms.  Otherwise, there will be no new love, no new business, no new ideas.  So I love, lose, and dream, over and over again, knowing love and loss are inextricable.  Because that’s the deal.

3 Responses to That’s the Deal

  1. Marna November 6, 2012 at 6:44 am #

    That is, indeed, the deal. And it is worth the rate of exchange, and then some.

  2. Eddie Coker November 6, 2012 at 1:25 pm #

    We get into mucho trouble a LOT buying into the notion that “somewhere over the rainbow” there is that pot of gold. The pot of gold is when we buy into “the deal.”

  3. Phil Kinen November 6, 2012 at 8:36 pm #

    Your last blog could not have been more timely, pointed and poignant for me. At first read, I thought it was a bit of a side trip from your regular stuff. But when one is in search of that connecting bit, one will never find it on the straight and narrow but on the side trips we allow ourselves the time and patience to take. Add to it one my most admired theological thinkers observations, this blog that arrived in the darker hours of morning and the near end of an anguished filled day. It gave me the understanding of why I have been at such a stand still for some time and even more, has mustered the courage for me to start marching again. That’s the deal!

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