One of the best things I learned during Resident Assistant training at SMU was to count to ten before confronting an emotional situation. New insight from Jill Bolte Taylor, the brain scientist who survived her own stroke, suggests counting to 90 might be more helpful.
Bolte Taylor explains that it takes only 90 seconds for a thought, emotion, and physiological response to course through our bodies. So count to 90 to clear your body’s circuits before taking action or letting go.
Bonus realization: Any thought, feeling, or biofeedback that exists after 90 seconds does so only because we’ve rekindled the response. Think about this next time you find yourself riled up about an experience that happened a decade ago.